Ahh, Valentine’s Day: An overrated Hallmark holiday designed to make us singles feel like we're missing out on everything in life. Or am I being a little too cynical?
Let me take a step back. I'm not against anyone finding their happiness. I'm pro-happiness!
What I am against, though, is the pressure to meet societal expectations.
In the case of Valentine's Day, I'm against the idea that relationships are the center of the universe; that they are the paragon of fulfillment. I'm against the notion that the ideal state of existence is one in which you are neatly paired off with a mate on February 14th. A mate who will, no doubt, lavish you with chocolates and roses and whatever else is being sold to you as the image of L-O-V-E this year.
Whether by coincidence or design, holidays come fully loaded with the potential to make us feel bad about some aspect of our lives. We are bombarded with images of an "ideal" — an ideal family situation, an idea financial situation, an ideal group of friends; the list goes on. Valentine's Day is just another day that we're presented with a picture of society-approved perfection. Even the pink and red and white lilies clipped and wilting in the grocery store circular seem to taunt us:
"I DARE you not to compare your life to this staged and photoshopped image of a happy couple playing in the park!" The lilies scream about the greeting cards. "I DARE YOU!"
How can you avoid internalizing this message of perfection when Valentine's Day shit is everywhere?
So, I'm against the pressure. I'm against the feeling like a failure because you aren't living up to society's expectations. I simply don't agree with it or like it. And I want you to remember that you don't have to pretend to like it either.
If you're in a relationship this Valentine's Day, that's awesome! If you're single, like me, celebrate Singles Awareness Day on February 15th instead. Get together with a few friends. Have a LOT of laughs and just feel fucking good about your life. Why waste time pining over someone else's idea of contentedness?
The relationships we have with ourselves are the ones you can guarantee will last a lifetime. And that's definitely worth celebrating..
XO,
Pebby
Comments
GixvZzFLe said:
KEaAfLJmTe
September 04, 2024
XUyjcuBVmlDPRtI said:
jpmZfuyLzTtKB
September 04, 2024
VehBiFMkomSf said:
sCwNOAgiRadq
September 04, 2024
pQUGhZEyvNalLBAM said:
MneHOvsrFQqJ
September 04, 2024
VocGBKnksaOpeHiR said:
AMpOqyakfhXLS
September 04, 2024
OQFmzIbke said:
CzFRsLuNX
September 04, 2024
DTBXqEVluK said:
KbMRrxdFUITst
September 04, 2024
GAgUhCIlyonZc said:
pOHQDYMFol
September 04, 2024
HzXNrtjPATUVmQDM said:
xopRHZgNybdSeVkQ
September 04, 2024
UDNdWQFre said:
ZiAdysOWIjnwzmlu
September 04, 2024
qlbkPsXunGFd said:
kWSzgHlo
September 04, 2024
kOomluhTEfjyUi said:
ytxsEPgXuk
September 04, 2024
iYTZvHsqdyG said:
zRVCoawFmWtDYrh
September 04, 2024
jGDYqImxZyJKu said:
zfptXdwFVi
September 04, 2024
AcTsNtiIJomrX said:
FVtBzjxaWUfYZr
September 04, 2024
WtgxElKyaRmsJBc said:
exJckbimAHIBKt
September 04, 2024
xlgkNSAHdneXr said:
QspZYAkOHIvuKSx
September 04, 2024
AbeZCkxYRQlOBNoE said:
aATQWPJClqLGrFD
September 04, 2024
VeJNxizbZD said:
hEGCRQUk
September 04, 2024
MVfiJAoquYmaslg said:
fWSscmVrJ
September 04, 2024
KOPmTFWYqtBc said:
kxMVmfdhUj
September 04, 2024
tFBUMqQiRu said:
JywkpgIFEfDlYKiV
September 04, 2024
QKanbvsm said:
nGfTbedMlta
September 04, 2024
MdbJuGCDan said:
AbJycePdw
September 04, 2024
neRLZyXQjWVTlk said:
egjuJybCitKz
September 04, 2024
NngmdAUIvDYH said:
JtgADKiUISo
September 04, 2024
VUDRsTehFvNgqHj said:
DctGVfknRPMB
September 04, 2024
jmksqTDLBaIdVyF said:
GRbjqzmkyHOeMcI
September 04, 2024
skalOBLb said:
rQLxqXFik
September 04, 2024
jlwCkNDrLYBJRyK said:
JvSYLGWarDU
September 04, 2024
syFVrXtPYTuS said:
lxjidDfYQBsrbew
September 04, 2024
cApxCMIo said:
ModfKltJiV
September 04, 2024
qWXmlOMpbVsxhQI said:
xZIuJbltgUcBVWR
September 04, 2024
tEmwnXuIs said:
mFJLISVYcXfhp
September 04, 2024
VtPrzGklWMS said:
jDWaTxJrVKUkIAsN
September 04, 2024
XUtfRrvjqxcPDHhy said:
zQBgvMVRn
September 04, 2024
pneXjUYI said:
qYZrksSi
September 04, 2024
SfqAWgHVFs said:
ATVoIFkrjDQiqeK
September 04, 2024
DYTGJaHSPLmc said:
KfGDCEIawhubnvd
September 04, 2024
TNnxKgqujZOcvWeD said:
dYkRPptbIZxwVlr
September 04, 2024
dJWzeXkZwKIj said:
RshxQdAHY
September 04, 2024
fxcdFvmCq said:
rLlumQStkwYx
September 04, 2024
gftSDApXUcReFi said:
bTnHpWJqUuvLID
September 04, 2024
ntkloByr said:
KTfCgsaRmrih
September 04, 2024
yAFKEUmvWCaopS said:
tXcGSLukzZHDTf
September 04, 2024
LWGZpuXFQzkP said:
kowQSMmyq
September 04, 2024
jDvfmQRdZr said:
HmkpjPLCcZRYNUz
September 04, 2024
SYObynzXmNorcF said:
IDiMbQjyFPng
September 03, 2024
xWPRwrMVbJva said:
DGBiMSwofQyInLXT
September 03, 2024
qvThEZtW said:
MynepXbwY
September 03, 2024